The Power of Self Talk

     How do you talk to yourself ? What sort of chatter do you hear inside your head all day long ?

Do you , like many of us, talk to yourself with words like --Dummy,Idiot, Stupid, Failure--when you've done something you didn't like or something you thought was wrong? Do these words help you ? How do you feel when you call yourself Stupid ?

In my experience, people often call themselves a bad name before someone else can. For example, people who have had harsh and critical parents or siblings, will often point out to themselves that they have behaved badly first,before anyone else has the chance.The best defense is a good offense type of thing. This is self-protective behavior. If believe that I tell myself I am stupid, it won't hurt so much when someone else tells me........


Often these words are so familiar to us and we are so used to calling ourselves these names we don't even recognize it until someone points it out to us. Listen to your spouse or your best friend and ask them to listen to you when you talk out loud to yourself. It isn't a joke !


Your brain is chattering to you all day long. Much of what it is saying is negative. It appears to be part of the human condition that we talk to yourselves worse than you'd ever speak to a stranger on the street. Insulting,critical words and phrases used by ourselves to ourselves are harmful and hurtful.They are not joking or funny as we think they are"Oh I'm jut kidding". Your subsoncsious does not recognize this type of joke,it believes you are serious.


Especially if you are wanting to change your life or pursue a new goal.


You 'll fail. You Can't do That !!


You are worthless. You 'll get hurt .


You're a spoiled brat and don't deserve that !


You think the world owes you a living .


You don''t have the brains God gave a worm.


And on and on and on until we don't even try anymore,until we take a job we hate or weigh 100 pounds over what we want to weigh or until we stay in an unhappy marriage.


Until we are miserable inside and out..........


You can change this self talk. You can stop treating yourself as if you had a broom over your head ready to strike yourself . No one else can do this for you ,but you can......and you must.... in order to reach any of your goals in life. Breath................AH !!


Please visit my blog and you can take steps to learn how to learn to treat yourself better and succeed in your goals.


I"ll look forward to seeing you there !


In a more peaceful,self-loving place,


Dr.Cristina Oliver


drcristinaoliver.com/selftalk